How to love your birthday

Photo credit: David Choi


Do you love your birthday? I lurrrrrrve it. I do. I love my birthday. I didn’t used to. For as long as I can remember I always slightly dreaded it, a bit like Christmas which I’m also learning to love. The thought of having to get people together to celebrate it at a time when everyone is submerged in office Christmas parties and therefore highly likely not to show up is enough to make anyone want to crawl into a dark corner and forget about it. Not to mention the fact that you’re older and still nowhere near achieving any of the things you’d have hoped to have done by now…I mean, whhhhhyyyyyy on earth would you want to celebrate that? Ugh! No thanks.

So why the sudden change of heart? You may ask. Well, there are a few reasons. About a week ago with just a couple of days left till the ‘big day’ someone asked me, “How do you feel about getting older?” to which I replied like a true sassy Sagittarius, “I feel great about getting older because it means I’m still here, I’m alive.” Suffice to say, the other person didn’t have much else to say after that, other than, “Yeah, I guess that’s true.” Awks.

The point is, In the past five years I’ve lost both Abram and his best friend, Ben. Both died young and both still had so much that they wanted to do. My first birthday without Abram saw me disappearing off to the countryside and turning my phone off for three days. The situation was not helped by the fact that it was exactly six months after Abram had passed. The following year and the year after that were different, I got together close friends, including Ben and made sure I marked it. When my birthday came along in 2016 and Ben was no longer here to celebrate with me either I thought, I’ve made it another year and I’m grateful for that and all the people I still have left in my life who I love and who love me so I’m going to make the most of it. And I did.

For the second year running I’ve used my birthday as an opportunity to celebrate the awesome people in my life who have been charmed by my hustling ways and become supporters of the Abram Wilson Foundation. It’s like one big birthday-at-Christmas-office-party-fundraiser at my favourite venue in London, Kansas Smitty’s.

Last year we raised about £600.

This year we raised £1,400.

Yep. My freakin birthday, the thing I spent way too many years dreading has raised £2,000 for the Abram Wilson Foundation thanks to the generosity and love of some very special people. That’s the equivalent of a full workshop programme at one school reaching up to 1,500 young people from disadvantaged backgrounds. How brilliant is that? Best present ever, that’s what that it is.

Huge thanks to everyone who turned up and supported. Thanks to Will Arnold-Foster and Joe Webb for some gorgeous music and last but not least, thanks to our Associate Artists, Kansas Smitty’s for being such great hosts.

If you’d like to get involved and support the Abram Wilson Foundation you can do so by becoming a Trailblazer HERE.

Merry Christmas and see you in 2018!


Jennie x